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Thanks to the geomagnetic storm last week, we saw the Northern Lights for the first time ever!
I say āsawā loosely because what our eyes could see simply looked like wispy clouds, but apparently our phones can pick up light that our eyeballs canāt. So we took pictures to see all the incredible purples and greens.
It was pretty spectacular!
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Friday night, I was ticked.
Saturday morning, even more livid.
Ask anyone close to me, theyāll tell you itās not easy to upset me.
But in that moment⦠I honestly wanted to punch a wall.
I turned to my wife and said āI donāt want to feel like this all weekend. What do I do?ā
Just then, my mind flashed back to 2015, when I was living in Comayagua, Honduras.
I was there on a 2-year service mission for my church.
While my time spent as a voluntary proselytizing service missionary were 2 of the greatest years of my life, they were also full of:
Long days
Constant rejection
Physical Labor
Language learning challenges
Big scary goals with high accountability
And on top of all that, the missionary companion Iād been assigned to seemed to despise my very existence for no apparent reason.
One day we had āexchangesā, where we swapped companions with a group of missionaries from another sector for the day.
My 24-hour companion was a fantastic human. Kind. Humble. A great listener.
He let me vent about everything I was struggling with⦠then, when I asked him what to do, he simple said this:
āImagine for a moment youāve got a pebble, and itās right in front of your eyeball.ā

āThis pebble contains all your problems.
When you focus on it like this, itās all you can see.
Now imagine tossing that pebble out in front of you.ā

āDid the pebble change size?
Obviously not.
But did your perception of itās size change?ā
Maybe Iām simple minded, but this changed everything for me.
It all made sense.
This simple visualization didnāt change a single thing about the actual reality of the challenges I was facing.
But what it did do was change how I saw them ā how they really are ā as a teeny-tiny piece of a much, MUCH larger picture.
What if whether your ālife sucksā just depends on how you choose to crop the picture?
This is what a bad day looks like, from 5 different perspectives:

How bad is a bad day, really?
You probably canāt even remember specifically 1% of the things you cried about as a child, despite those reasons feeling like the weight of the entire world was crushing you in the moment.
By the time you hit 50, most of the day-to-day struggles from your 20s will be long forgotten.
The fact is, the things you think are a huge deal today, 99% of the time simply arenāt.
Whether itās anger, fear, embarrassment, sadness, or any other unpleasant emotion, watching this video will help you quickly see how small the things are that occupy your mind:
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Sometimes all it takes is taking a step back and seeing the bigger picture to realize we donāt need to be so worked up about things.
The thing I was mad about on Saturday? It was resolved today.
Remembering this perspective Saturday morning allowed me to enjoy my weekend knowing how ridiculously insignificant this problem was in the grand scheme of my life, let alone in the world as a whole.
Making this mindset a habit is one of the most effective ways to build steadfast resilience to not just survive, but thrive through lifeās unavoidable obstacles.
So next time you feel like I did, donāt punch a wall.
Toss a pebble, instead.
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Try it
Watch the video linked above, and then ask yourself:
āWill it matter 1 year from now? 5 years? 10 years?ā
Build a habit of asking questions like this, and doing the visualization exercise imagining your problem as a pebble that can simple be tossed out in front of you so you can see the bigger picture.
What ideas popped in your head while reading? Hit reply and let me know!
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- Kody
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