❤️‍🩹 Andy Grammer’s grieving strategy

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On January 4th, 2009, singer-songwriter Andy Grammer’s mother Kathy lost the battle to breast cancer.

In his own words:

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That is, until he discovered a way to channel the pain.

He calls it “grieving on offense”.

Here’s how it went down a few years ago:

While traveling for a concert, he went to breakfast at a restaurant near the venue he’d be at that night.

Across the restaurant sat 5 “SUPER CUTE elderly women”, as he put it.

He’s made a habit of keeping an eye out for women that look about his mom’s age (if she were still here), and these ladies fit the bill.

After a little internal debate of whether or not to do it (since he doesn’t like bringing attention to himself when helping people), he followed his gut feeling and offered to pay for all their breakfast.

“Listen, my mom passed away and one of the things I like to do for her is just pay for women’s breakfast. It would mean a lot to me.”

Right then, one of the women starts bawling.

She goes, “I lost my son and he was about your age.”

Next thing they know, they’re both hugging.

Filling a tiny hole in each others’ hearts.

And what’s beautiful is this isn’t an isolated event.

He quietly does these kind gestures to total strangers all the time, all in honor of his sweet mom.

“The downside is sometimes you look stupid”, he says, “but when you live that way, crazy stuff happens.”

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If you’ve lost someone, how can you live and serve in honor of them each day?

You might make a habit of buying people’s food like Andy Grammer, or maybe just go out of your way to hold the door open for someone.

Say hi, offer help, or offer a compliment.

You might just do it and quietly move on, or if it feels right you might let them know you’re doing it in honor of your loved one.

You never know how much that might mean to them since chances are, they’ve probably lost somone too.

Try it once this week, and if you like it, make a habit of it once a month, or even once a week.

Just imagine how honored and proud your loved one will be to know the good you’re doing in their name..

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“My tummy hurts. Here’s the problem… I ate too much food, I didn’t get enough sleep, I walked around a lot and played on the deck.

And that’s the whole experiment.”

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- Kody

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